Changes.

I'm starting to understand

(finally!)

what is meant by ''turning tides''

I've always felt a pulling back
almost like an icy blast
the realization
taking me by surprise
kind of shocking, really
so

what happens when

seasons change
trust changes

attitudes change
conversation changes

relationships change

?

I don't know
I suppose
just like the tide

there isn't a damn thing

I can do about 

it

Just a Week......?

I was talking to a good friend of mine

the other day

a guy in his mid 50's

estranged from his lady love of 15 years

struggling to re-connect with her

and as I listened to him

(for the 382nd time)

bemoaning the 

fact they didn't ever

have alone time

I

suggested they take a week

go to a far off region

just the two of them

no TV

no phones

no books

no computer

no internet

no work

and just....be together

I was completely taken aback by his reaction

it was almost as if I'd stomped a kitten

He was aghast

''what in the world would we do?''

he sputtered

I

stopped and thought about it for a minute

and

 decided to tell him what *I* would do 

if I had the opportunity to spend

all that time with a partner I loved

we would have 

tons of 

conversation

picnics

walks on the beach

sex

kite flying

wine at sunset
kissing for hours

blanket forts

photography

the list is really endless

but

as I ran down that list to my friend

I could tell he didn't get it

and so I stopped

because

if 

he can't stand to spend a single week alone

with his lady love

then she isn't someone
he is supposed to be with

in the first place

You've been Flamingo'd

What does a bored 48 year old

do to the neighbors
on a Saturday night

for fun

?

Yep.

Notify Me....Never

One 

of the biggest things police officer 

spouses and families
dread

is the random knock on the door

telling them their loved one 

has been killed or seriously injured

in the line of duty

This has been my reality

for the past 29 years

as a wife

so

I've been asking Wes what the 

notification policies are 

at his department

and I discovered

he

didn't really know

his reply

"I guess the Chief and the Chaplain would show up''

well
 since it's ME
daily uncertainty simply isn't going to work 

So
in my quest to remove the ''what ifs''

last week
I wrote a note to be placed in Wes' personnel file

designating a certain officer 

(a good friend to both of us... a riding buddy)

to be the 

liaison between myself and the police department

the person who will be my notifying officer

because I know

in the unlikely event of a catastrophe

when the chips are down

( and I fall apart )

he is the kind of stand up guy

who

would know exactly

what to do

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Thank-you, Amazon

for

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NEW

toilet paper

!!!

Hands

 

Call it a recent obsession
Lately

I've been photographing hands

doing ordinary things

extraordinarily

What color is your parachute?

Recently

during a delightful 

''getting to know you''

sort of interview

I was asked the following question

"what color best describes you?'

I didn't skip a beat
My answer: 

"Plaid"

There was a minute of 

stunned silence
(and a grin)

then he said

''NOBODY has ever said plaid...you DO think outside the box''

Well....duh.